In a world that feels like a daily roller coaster of good, bad, and ugly occurrences my best advice is: Be kind. To yourself.

Just as many of you do, I often second, third, and even fourth guess myself. My mind spirals in a swirl of how stupid a comment, thought, or action was. Whether it’s my own action or something someone else has said or done, I can spend endless time giving my attention to a self-confidence crushing swirl of thoughts.

To pull myself up by my bootstraps and make my way back to my “zone of genius” I’ll sometimes listen to Matt Kahn on YouTube.

A recent video that inspired me is titled “Unravelling Judgement.” The recording took me from a place of self and “other” judging to a place of greater kindness and self care.

This quote really resonated with me:

Nothing is Stupid

Nothing is stupid.

Everything helps everything.

If it could have happened differently it would have. 

What weakness is this outcome helping me strengthen?

Nothing is stupid.

Thank you.”
~ Matt Kahn

How might this look in every day life?

You were late for a meeting. Apologize. Set better reminders on your calendar and move on.

You snapped at a colleague. Apologize. Take time to figure out what is really bugging you and move on.

You heard only criticism of your work all day. Take a deep breath. Remind yourself of something you do incredibly well. And move on.

As you navigate your day or week and your encounter difficulty and judgement from yourself and others, please be kind. To yourself. It will make you stronger and a better leader.

And if you feel the need, as I sometimes do, repeat out loud, the quote in this post, as you make your way back to your own zone of genius.


I, too, need mentors to help me navigate what life dishes out. As your mentor & coach in 2020 in the Influential Executive Director Series I’ll have your back.

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